Making positivity communicable! How to be the life of the party.
Charismatic, animated, vibrant, spirited, carefree. Ideally, these words depict the demeanour of a soul that instantaneously lights up the room on any given occasion, bringing forth an ambience full of life and positive vibes. We all know an example of someone everyone LOVES to be around. More like the 'golden child of ocassions’. He or she maybe that one person who, no matter where they go happiness and laughter follows. When you know such a person, you are spontaneously attracted to them, and without doubt yearn to be around their space. In their presence you feel light, excited and inspired; you become the best version of yourself. For you who is that person?
If you’re not this person, and in fact, see very little of yourself in them, have you asked yourself why? What makes them capable of such contagious happiness? After all happiness is a choice.
Rather than being keen to draw excitement, passion, inspiration and enthusiasm from other people, why not start relying on yourself for these things? Depending on the outside world to complete and fulfill you can never feel truly satisfactory as everyone perceives you differently. Knowing that their thoughts of you do not actually validate your expectations results in denting your esteem. Prioritize authenticity over approval. Quit seeking validation and endeavor to be the best version of you. Needless to say, happiness is an inside job.
“happiness is an inside job"
Aspiring to be the life of the party? Then you need to make a deliberate effort to become that great person you want to be around. Work your way towards becoming the source of energy and excitement others find so irresistible.
See to it that you’re the life and soul of the party with these simple tips.
1) Happiness is paramount. Choose it!
Happiness can be both innate or inculcated. Either way, it’s anyone’s right to enjoy this amazing feeling. So choose it! One of the most effective ways of arriving at it, and choosing it as a way of life is through changing your outlook on life itself and looking for positives in every situation.
There is power in positivity. It’s not only contagious, but also attractive. If you abide by it’s trajectory, you are likely to have more fun, consequently drawing people towards you. Not only will that help you come out of your comfort zone, but it will also make others see you as more approachable and easy going.
2) Endeavour to invest in yourself.
In order to extend love and positivity to others, you need to nurture these two within yourself first. Logically, you can never give what you don’t have, hence mastering them first will place you in a better position to actually ignite them in others.
Learning to love and care for yourself greatly inspires aspects that will help you become the life of the party. One of the most notable of these aspects would be confidence.
Confidence can actually be radiated effortlessly, without saying or doing much. For instance, pulling up in that classy outfit could be a game changer for you, intriguing others to draw closer, with the intention of developing a rapport.
So next time you go out, have in mind the essence of investing in looking good. Rock that stylish outfit but do not overlook the importance of simplicity too.
Keep your cool, and be cognizant of the fact that there is elegance in simplicity. Don’t be too loud or aggressive and do not outdo yourself, for this will end up making you look vexatious to the party spirit.
3) Turn up!
Want to light up the room when you walk in? No problem- all you have to do is turn up. Not just physically, but emotionally too. By becoming more present in everything you do, people can instantly respond to you. They’ll see someone that is aunthetic, engaged and excited about here and now.
Make an effort of genuinely wanting to be there for people, without expectations. They may not always reciprocate, naturally making you feel short changed. But when you learn to do it knowing that it’s out of sheer kindness and humanity that you’re availing yourself for others, then the entire course becomes more worthwhile.
4) Focus on others.
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
An ancient narrative is told of a man who suffered from a terminal illness. It so happened that this particular man got wheeled into a hospital room where another patient was placed on a bed next to the window. As time went on, the two became good friends. The one next to the window would look out of it and spend the next few hours delighting his bedridden companion with vivid descriptions of the world outside. Some days he would describe the beauty of the trees in the park across from the hospital and how the leaves danced in the wind. On other days, he would entertain his friend with step by step replays of the things people were doing as they walked by the hospital. However, as time went on, the bedridden man grew frustrated at his inability to observe the wonders his friend described. Eventually, he grew to dislike him and the hate him intensely.
One night, during a particularly bad coughing fit, the patient next to the window stopped breathing. Rather than pressing the button for help, the other man chose to do nothing. The next morning, the patient who had given his friend so much happiness by recounting the sights outside the window was pronounced dead and wheeled out of the hospital room. The other man quickly asked that his bed be placed next to the window, a request that was complied with by the attending nurse. But as he looked out of the window, he discovered something that left him astounded: the window faced a stark brick wall.
His former roommate had conjured up the incredible sights that he described in his imagination as a loving gesture to make the world of his friend a little bit better during a difficult time. He had acted out of selfless love.
Delving deeper into the scenario of these two men, their respective acts highly resonate with the present times. We live in a world where evil has deprived us of our humane feelings. But this does not necessarily imply that no good exists. As a matter of fact, it does exist, and quite a number genuinely have the interests of their fellow human beings at heart.
The man who narrated the scenes outside the window represents the good. He was indeed the life of the party in the other man’s life, upholding this duty so religiously and lovingly. His friend however, took it all for granted, eventually loosing more that he thought he would gain.
Caring for others is an expression of what it means to be fully human. Going out of your way to help souls even without them fully appreciating might just be the best thing you can do whilst alive, as it eventually brings in your way abundance; in the context of peace, blessings and happiness.
To be the life of the party, one has to realize that your generous works might never be fully reciprocated. But even if that will be so, do not relinquish pursuing that path of light.
All the same, strive not to be ungrateful like the man wheeled into the hospital. When one or two souls go out of their way to help, learn to be appreciative, no matter how insignificant their deeds may appear. Don’t just live for yourself. Live, love and care for others as well.
“live love and care for others"
And with every place you set your foot in, smile. For this is the light in your window that tells others that there is a caring, sharing person inside.
Written and edited by; Ephy Gathara.
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